Everyone who has entered into the bond of marriage knows — marriage is difficult! Life has a way of kicking the crap out of you when you least expect it, and learning how to navigate these hard times with a significant other can be tricky, especially if you don’t put the time and effort into building a strong foundation with your spouse. It can get easier with time, but during the process of growing into mature, selfless spouses, marriage requires a will to fight for the union. Unfortunately too many people enter into marriage with a false sense of reality. And when life gets hard they bail on their partner. The one person they’ve committed to be with until death is haphazardly tossed to the side. Marriage is not for the weak-minded or softhearted. Marriage is for warriors.
To be a warrior-wife you must be willing to go to war for your marriage and fight every single day; even if your spouse is (or seems) unwilling to work on themselves and the marriage. The commitment you made is supposed to be an unbreakable bond. One way to ensure your marriage lasts is to become a warrior-wife. Being war-minded for your marriage doesn’t mean you are paranoid about something going wrong. That kind of anxiety has no place in a successful marriage. A war-minded woman takes proactive steps to strengthen the marriage bond to protect her family from negative influences. She is prepared for anything. So, when life starts kicking the crap out you, the marriage will withstand hard times.
Here are 10 ways you can be a warrior-wife for your marriage and family.
1.A prayer warrior: A wife who knows the power of prayer intercedes for her husband and children. She doesn’t wait for the hard times to hit before she prays. She prays in good and bad times. When her husband needs prayer, he can ask his wife because he knows she has a deep relationship with God. Her prayers soothe and comfort her family. They rebuke evil and cast out negativity. They declare goodness and favor in their lives. Not only does she pray, but she also believes what she prays.
2. A word warrior: A wife who uses her words to speak life and wisdom to her husband and children. She knows how to encourage herself and her family in the Lord. Her words heal, comfort, and correct with love. On the other hand, she doesn’t hesitate to speak in defense of her family when others try to harm them. She knows her tongue is a mighty weapon, so she uses it wisely.
3. A confidence warrior: A wife who makes her man feel like he can do anything he sets his mind to. She is constantly encouraging her husband, who she believes in, even when he doesn’t believe in himself.
4. A mother-warrior: A wife who doesn’t mess around when it comes to her children. She protects them. She cares for them. She teaches them about God. She teaches them about respecting themselves and about the importance of family. A mother-warrior believes her role as a mother is a divine responsibility and that God will hold her accountable for how she rears her children. As such, she does whatever it takes to make sure her children feel safe and loved; are fed and clothed; and are educated properly.
5. A financial warrior: A wife who can take a few dollars and make a meal that tastes like a million bucks. She doesn’t complain about what the family doesn’t have; instead, she knows how to make do with they do have. She plans for rainy days and helps her husband provide for the family.
6. A discernment warrior: A wife with the ability to see and feel what’s good and what’s bad for the marriage, because she prays regularly and hears from God. She can sense when someone has malicious intentions toward her family or when someone is genuine friend.
7. A household warrior: A wife who protects the peace and sanctity of the home. She doesn’t allow negativity to infiltrate the home environment because she knows the home should be the safest place in the world for her family.
8. A sexual warrior: A wife who isn’t afraid to enjoy physical intimacy with her husband. She initiates sex and enjoys pleasing her husband. When the love life goes lacking or gets monotonous, she steps up to re-energize things.
9. A worship warrior: A wife who is not afraid to praise and worship God. She knows where her help comes from, and she expresses her gratefulness wherever and whenever the Spirit moves her. “Give thanks to the Lord, for he is good; his love endures forever,” is her praise song.
10. A purpose-driven warrior: A wife who knows that God has a purpose for her marriage. She’s willing to fight for it when others say she should give up. She partners with her husband to achieve their marriage and family goals. Her motto is “We’ll lock arms and stand together. No matter what!”
Okay, so let me be clear about one thing — I have not perfected any of these areas. I am still continually working to be better in every area of my marriage. However, I am making proactive steps towards making the changes necessary to have a successful marriage. And I want to encourage you to embrace the warrior inside of you. As wives and future-wives, we don’t have to accept whatever life throws at us. God made us in His image, which means we have the power to create the marriages and lives we deserve. Every woman has a warrior on the inside of her. That’s why “a man who finds a wife finds a treasure and has favor with the Lord” (Proverbs 18:22). That treasure is his warrior-wife who’s not afraid to fight for their relationship.